Ways to Deal with Strong Feelings for More Than One Person: A Guide to Latino Dating

Latina or Latino Dating on average, for most women, is a conversation with a tall, tanned, suave, smooth-talking brute who can instantly make you swoon. Meanwhile, for men, it is a cup of coffee with a jet-black haired, appealing, and curvaceous woman. The imagination gives you a vivid picture of physicality. But there’s more to them than meets the eye. To enjoy the experience of being with them fully, you need to learn certain things about them.

Colombia is the habitat of one of the sexiest and most feminine women on earth. They are the epitome of the classic Latina beauty imprint. They have this unique ability which allows natural biological forces between men and women to take its course. With no further ado, here are some basic facts and tips on how to date a Colombian woman:

• Define the relationship. Before starting your relationship, you must talk about where your relationship will be heading. If you are looking for Latin brides for marriage, make sure you concentrate on her background and personality more than her physical attributes. See if she fits you perfectly.
• Compliment her beauty and personality. Dating a Colombian girl can be quite challenging. Latinas appreciate compliments as long as you are nice and fun to be with. Just don’t overdo and rush things or she might give you the cold shoulder the next day.
• Dress your best.  Colombian women are known for their chic fashion sense. They always wear clothes that accentuate their best assets. You will never see them wearing baggy pants, so compliment her by looking your best.
• Meet the family: It is not uncommon for you to be introduced to their family if you’re dating beautiful Colombian girls. Her family’s approval of you and how you get along well with them is very important for her. Don’t shy away. Just be yourself and show them how sincere you are about their daughter.

Many legitimate international dating sites allow you to meet people of different nationalities. However, suppose you get into a Hispanic dating site and you meet two different people. Incidentally, they both give you certain levels of indescribable and overpowering feeling.  You never planned on falling in love with both of them, but you are pretty sure that you are. The question is: is it, love? And if so, how should you deal with it?

THE POSSIBILITY OF FALLING IN LOVE BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE

According to Connell Barrett, a New York-based dating coach, falling in love with two beautiful single women at the same time is not impossible. He said that the concept of multitudes by Walt Whitman was right. Between the two people that you are dating, for instance, the former might bring out confidence and sexiness out of you while the latter might give you that secure and loving feeling. Hence, you become simultaneously in love with them. Your brain releases dopamine because they make you feel adored and special in their own unique ways.

However, this idea is still under scrutiny. You may develop strong feelings for two different and beautiful Latin girls simultaneously. But most of the time, such intense feelings might just be a misconception. You may only be deeply infatuated but not genuinely in love.

LOVE AND INFATUATION

To discern if it’s love and not infatuation let’s take a look at their differences:

• Infatuation is being overwhelmed with unexplained emotions. It usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship and centers on physical or sexual attraction. Love is a deep affection for someone.
• Infatuation has this sense of urgency or intensity and can lead to thoughtless abandonment of what you once value the most. However, love is faithful, loyal, content, and confident. The person is willing to make sacrifices for their partner. There is a continuous appreciation of each other’s differences and compromise to give each other a chance.
• Infatuation is more focused on satisfying lust once and for all. Love, on the other hand, takes a commitment to heart, has genuine intentions, and considers his other half’s feelings before acting.

HOW TO HANDLE SUCH STRONG FEELINGS FOR TWO DIFFERENT PEOPLE

When confronted with confusion, especially if you are currently in a relationship, try to think it over. Consider these tips in processing your emotions.

• Evaluate your feelings. Since the difference between love and infatuation is already being laid out, figure things out. Apply thoroughly the criteria to both women. However, be cautious. You should talk to your partner about it or it might lead to emotional cheating.
• Consider your needs and wants. Monogamy is ingrained in every culture since ages. Consider your wants and needs from a relationship because only you can define that.
• Consider your views on emotional monogamy. Physical and emotional loyalty is a must, but it might not be for some. So, ask yourself if being with only one person is something that gives you happiness and contentment.

JUST DECIDE

Annalisa Barbieri, a relationship consultant from The Guardian said that the answer to such a problem is that neither of the women is good for you and more likely that neither of them suits you. She added that the thoughts of settling down are a good stimulus for you to look at your situation closely. On a final note, just don’t mistake someone’s availability for suitability.